Cake and Ice Cream

As people when dating we all want our "Cake and Ice Cream" whether we admit it or not...women want a man who will cook, clean, protect, love, honor, communicate, and respect them. The type of man after a long day at work will be there to pick up the kids(if you have them) make dinner and still rub your feet after a long day, oh yeah can’t forget giving you some of the best "D" you ever had. Now look at all the things (well obligations) that's people want, and if you think that men are more simple than women your definitely...wrong...Men want mostly the same thing however they are usually less likely to express it (being considered to be pushovers)...try asking a man...what is his description of his perfect woman, and I can damn near guarantee one of the first things he describes...if he can describe anything at all (if he knows) is something physical. Wether it’s a woman with long hair, a nice body, nice teeth...it would be nice to have a "good look". That beautiful, intelligent, respectful, woman in the streets but a damn freak being closed doors. An understanding woman will sit down and enjoy sports with her man. An understanding man will gladly go shopping with his woman. Well look at that...more obligations ( maybe i shouldn’t use the word "obligations", I think "compromise" is a better word)...and to those who think obligations are too much to handle...I say getting to work on time is an obligation but shit we do it, well us who have jobs do and for the jobless people wanting love or someone special get you life together 1st. Learn how to love and take care of yourself before you bring someone into your life!


So seemingly its not that hard to find your "Superman" or "Wonder Woman"...as long we ignore things like Age, Race, and social and credit status (well in this recession...the credit thing might have a little more weight...) and if you want your "Cake and Ice Cream” gets your spoons & forks ready...

I Called it First...

As the Saga continues...Monday I attended a listening party....as he rapped about a "Universal Mind Control" I couldn't control my mind...a face similar to a top model that of Eva Pigford but with the age and grace of a Halle Berry so i was amazed to find out that she was 10 yrs my senior...I was hooked...so I cordially spoke to all the women at the table not to spend to much time on any particular one. But damn if u could see what I saw. She said she hailed from the "D" by way of the 310. She kept it real, peeped me trying to get close, laying my hand on her hip just to pull her closer and look into those eyes, to smell her hair, and maybe steal a Kiss as he said "GO!” We talked and laughed, I fell back for a minute, feeling it in the air that the others saw what I saw. Look at "Winston" going after "Stella”, and you damn right I was focused on getting to know her, nothing else mattered...no other woman in the club...so as the night progressed one of the friends decided to leave (maybe because she didn't like common) or maybe...naw its not like that...or is it...after a few the final four of the party goers began walking to the train and to my amazement she had to take the 3...just like me. We parted our ways with the "girls" and let them go off to Brooklyn, but we were off to Harlem. So we walk through Columbus Circle and the next thing I know we are arm in arm...talking about the common interests, goals and life...or as common sense would put it...bridging the gap. Now I could just took it as being cold but what followed was simply...something to make the night something to remember. As we stood on the platform face to face and I found myself pulling her closer...but wait she wasn't resisting, I felt her hand on my leg...I ran my fingers through her hair...down her cheek to her chin…and then a kiss so good, it was worth missing several trains as we kissed and talked the night away. We finally made our way to the 3...continuing to talk about life...amazed that we were equally intrigued about each other. I walked her to her door, and told her Da' me un beso... She gave me a kiss just as good as the first one (as if something to remember). As the next day came I was sitting at my desk thinking about the night before so I decided to give her a text and make a attempt at a second night out with her, however what I got was a "Story"...that of tragedy and amazement...so it seems that signals were crossed back at the party that may have given someone the inkling that what was being cordial, was something else. None the less I was told in a round about way that since my "girl" had the eye for you I can't entertain what intrigues me at least not now.

So I ask are we still in a day and age where this is what it comes down to...playing "I called it" with people that you find attractive? is that the rule of thumb?

Standards vs Reality: the wants of life

Life is fun, especially when you take time to analyze it. I was speaking to a couple different female associates of mine today, and the topic came up about why not only me put people in general are single for longer periods time now. I said that it was due to the fact that people start off having huge aspirations with dating and what it all entails, but somewhere along the way because of bad choices in partners and not finding their "one" they just say fuck it. The ironic thing about just saying "fuck it" is that there are a couple of different "fuck it" situations, such as you can "Change your thoughts and Change your world". If what you were doing or where you were going to find people to date was not working simply change it, because obviously the shit your doing was not working. This sounds like the easiest thing to do, but when people are dating, they often live in a "state of Insanity".Even though they believe that they are doing something different they still end up in the same damn place with the same damn thing. A wise person once said that when wanting to obtain something in life you have to "mind fuck" yourself, force yourself to do what you want to do and not let your mind trick you out of it. Sounds simple enough huh, but if that was the case then most if not all of us would be millionaires, happily married living our dreams in everyday life. Now some say that the mind is where each of us actually lives in...not the "reality" of everyday life. Now there is seemingly nothing wrong with that...until the subconscious mind...plays a negative part of reality. I believe that people should live in their dreams...and make those dreams your reality. Have all the standards that you want, if you want a perfect 10 then go and get it, don't live in a state of fear. However do what you think will put you in a position to obtain that perfect 10, for example if you are a person who is a work-a-holic, who lives in the gym, then you cant possibly find happiness with a jobless fat person. NEVER settle, with a job,girlfriend;or boyfriend. Always go for what you want, because in the long run what you settled for will just piss you off, when you have time to think about it. So just go for what you know and what you want because people say that patience is a virtue but patience is sometimes mistaken with pointlessness. I for one go for progress and sometimes progress doesn't come from PATIENCE. You often find that people always talk about doing this and doing that but they talk about it not being the right time it isn't my time yet.."he" has his own plan for me(for those religious types) follow your dreams people, search for what completes you because you are the only person that knows what YOU want. People like to feel comfort and most are afraid of a challenge or traveling the path less traveled by...and there is no growth without challenge so I ask you wither its LOVE...SUCCESS..MONEY...FA

ME...whatever it is that you want...when you have that thought of change or desire or dating trying to find that perfect person...what will you do, settle for whats easy, or go for what you know and make those perfect standards of your dream life.... YOUR REALITY